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Genius article — Civilization was built upon shaming women, and Feminism flipped the dynamic to shaming men.

I've never seen this dynamic stated so concisely and articulately before.

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Sep 18, 2022Liked by bright eyes

This article called it over 10 years ago.

To provide 'beta' men an incentive to produce far more economic output than needed just to support themselves while simultaneously controlling the hypergamy of women that would deprive children of interaction with their biological fathers, all major religions constructed an institution to force constructive conduct out of both genders while penalizing the natural primate tendencies of each. This institution was known as 'marriage'. Societies that enforced monogamous marriage made sure all beta men had wives, thus unlocking productive output out of these men who in pre-modern times would have had no incentive to be productive. Women, in turn, received a provider, a protector, and higher social status than unmarried women, who often were trapped in poverty. When applied over an entire population of humans, this system was known as 'civilization'.

https://www.singularity2050.com/2010/01/the-misandry-bubble.html

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Thank you for linking this, it is very good. It is true that these dynamics were present even then, but as some say, markets have a tendency to remain irrational longer than one would expect.

For all who don't like coarse language and want more charts, please read!

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Sep 20, 2022Liked by bright eyes

His January 1, 2020 followup unpacked what's actually happened in those ten years very well. It's also obvious that in those ten years he's become intimately familiar with the Manosphere, which really emerged as a phenomenon of its own over that decade.

A really fascinating article.

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Sep 20, 2022Liked by bright eyes

Men were shamed too, in the form of simply being killed for not fulfilling their masculine end of the civilizational contract. There has never been a time in which men lived without being under the threat of serious shame.

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it's incredible, and the metaphors are delicious. it also forced me to familiarize myself with certain memes/acronyms/neologisms i'm still unfamiliar with.

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Why should anyone be shamed? Much less entire groups of people? If an individual does something truly shameful (and that varies from culture to culture, even person to person) then ok, some "shaming" from people who truly care about them might be justified. But personal guilt arising from one's own sense of right and wrong works far more efficiently. Guilt and shame are two different things. Shame based cultures and guilt based cultures are very different.

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Sep 15, 2022Liked by bright eyes

Good times create entitled mid women

Entitled mid women create bad times

Bad times create mid women who settle

Mid women settling creates good times

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Sep 20, 2022Liked by bright eyes

you sir completed the missing Women part in civilization Cycle!

-Good times create entitled mid women

-Entitled mid women create indifferent/weak men

-Indifferent/weak men create bad times

-Bad times create mid women who settle

-Mid women settling creates strong/productive men

-Strong productive men create good times

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What are mid women?

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they are the average women.

think of a population distribution that it has 3 categories high value/attractive women, mind value/attractive women, and low value/attractive women.

the biggest population % are mid-women so they are the biggest factor to influence the sex market and society.

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OK so mid means average. Most people are average, hence the word "average". I've seen "mid" used as an insult. By sub-5, below average men.

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That’s genius Patrick.

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Sep 17, 2022Liked by bright eyes

The Bible is absolutely true.

Husbands, love your wives.

Wives, respect your husbands.

Adultery is a sin. Fornication is a sin.

Marriage should be 1 virgin male marrying 1 virgin female...for life.

Marriage is not all about sex...there is a higher purpose, which is to reflect the pattern of Christ and His church while raising godly children.

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Sep 17, 2022Liked by bright eyes

Agreed. Both men and women are happiest in a solid marriage with children and the traditional family structure.....in fact I believe it is the healthiest way to live.

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Sep 18, 2022Liked by bright eyes

... and your reply sounds Kegan 2, IQ <110

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As a self-identified "mid man" how do you feel about being lumped in with the very problematic incel subculture?

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Sep 17, 2022·edited Sep 17, 2022Liked by bright eyes

One more thing…

This generation has suffered the greatest and virtually unknown loss of a magnitude that NO ONE can measure:

The almost complete loss of the life changing beauty and the utter and complete soul satisfaction of a sexual union that is born out of true love.

The cheap/uber-sad substitute:

push-button Cosmopolitan magazine machinations.

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Marriage is the earthly union of Man and Woman united on their journey to Heaven.

Anything else is just an excuse for Lawyers to steal your money.

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Weird dynamic in the contemporary dating scene is that even as the sex rate plummets, so does female attractiveness. It's weird because in essence it's getting harder to find a partner, meaning partners are more expensive. To a considerable degree this is due to men removing themselves from the dating market, or simply not showing up (see: college campuses). Since this imbalance nominally corresponds to women being cheaper commodities for those still in the game, you'd think females would respond by trying to increase their SMV in order to compete, but nah, instead you get green hair, obesity, general personality bitchiness. The feminist mind parasite seems more than capable of motivating destructive female behavior in the face of market pressures. So, this continues for a while, probably.

The other thing, of course, is how many mid men just say fuck it and seek marriageable wives elsewhere? Latin America, Eastern Europe, Asia all offer good alternatives. Somewhat perversely, this could provide the sexual motivation to keep civilization ticking along, while locking white women out of the marriage market. There'd be a certain poetic justice to that.

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Sep 17, 2022Liked by bright eyes

This has been my basic take for a long time. Women have gotten incredibly demanding at the same time they've gotten incredibly undesirable. The overshoot is amazing and I expect the consequences will be as well.

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Sep 20, 2022Liked by bright eyes

Absolutely right on the money, Sir! I cannot tell you how prevalent it is for smart men ‘in the know’ to bail for 6 months or so to Thailand, Ukraine(pre-war) even parts of the Middle East and ultimately come merrily home with their bride-to-be in tow! Women in those types of places have not yet been tainted and sullied by the knowledge of the West via the brainwashing of this ‘modern woman’ farce foisted upon girls here starting in the 80’s by society convincing them that “girl, you don’t need no man!” “You getcha’ college degree and you’ll be independent and thus never be happier!” What a fucking load of shit that is! This world is turned upside down on it’s head in every way, as this is an integral part of the overall larger, horrific, shitshow maelstrom we’ve got bearing down on us as men……buckle up, cause it’s gonna be a bumpy road!

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Yes, by far the best bet for most is to find a nice girl in such regions. Problem is finding such women, clueless travelers might meet the wrong types via adverse selection.

It might be possible for men in the know to more quickly coordinate such attractive matches ... one American man introduces the nice cousin of his Uruguayan wife to another, etc. This would not be difficult to implement publicly with e.g. a website, could also be more informal. Enterprising men wishing to make a positive impact — this may be one such approach.

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Sep 20, 2022Liked by bright eyes

Agreed…of course. Fittingly, there’s a famous Polish saying as follows : Każdy horror ma swojego kochanka. Translated it means - “Every horror has her lover” meaning that no matter how terribly undesirable, unattractive, unbecoming and a cum dumpster skank a woman is, there is always some chump to give her the time of day. Women will always have that power of the P! The saying is much more powerful and meaningful when said in Polish to a Pole, but you get the idea…Anyway, yes, careful selection of a girl brought up in a strict household not exposed to too much ‘Western’ culture is the key or at least finding one that is studiously aware of the pitfalls of the ‘Modern independent woman’ lie is of utmost importance and said quest must be undertaken with the utmost diligence, patience and caution for a long term successful wife/mother of one’s progeny!

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Sep 17, 2022·edited Sep 19, 2022Liked by bright eyes

totally agree with you, but let's not forget that there are a multitude of forces driving this phenomenon you describe of degrading average female desirability. it's not entirely ideologically-driven, or at least, it's not entirely driven by the evil known as 'feminism'.

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That's certainly true. Like most phenomena, it has a multivariate origin. In fact, I'd argue that feminism as an ideological driving force is itself much more symptom than cause. Economics, adulteration of the food supply, side effects from the Pill and SSRIs, all play an important role at both biological and psychological levels.

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i don't know enough to comparatively weigh the varying forces driving this degradation of female (and male?) attractiveness, but of course you're listing massive drivers. we're definitely on the same page.

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A theory of mine is that feminism invades a culture about 15 years after vegetable oil is introduced into the food supply.

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Feminism is a jewish tool to weaken Europeans, but that’s an interesting theory you have

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What about the Jesuits?

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Naw bro, I blame the Canadians.

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Yeah when I look up who runs all the banks and media companies, they're all owned by Canadians.

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This is a nice idea in theory, until you actually experience the difficultly of cross-cultural relationships. Even for couples who are both from Europe(Finn/Italian or Irish/Spanish), cross-cultural differences can be challenging to maintaining a relationship long-term.

There can also be other problems: I know a group of a few American men who all found Thai women and brought them back to the US to marry. The women were very sweet & subservient until after the marriages when they all turned into raging harpies.

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There's no cross-cultural differences. Everyone is human. The values are absolute.

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Okay, but I like green hair and forceful personalities, and the obesity is the result of another bad idea we unnecessarily adopted during the Mid-20th Century.

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Sep 21, 2022Liked by bright eyes

one look at some of the popular culture from the 50s to 70s shows how precipitous the fall has been. Demure, graceful and modest women who spoke with a sing song cadence - thinking of Star trek and the twilight zone - has given way to shrill, obnoxious, unfeminine, neurotic and undesirable femoids from the 90s onwards who think that playpen between their legs is itself enough to make them a prize for anyone. I wonder how and when this happened or if this was a result of conscious and subtle social engineering after the sexual liberation movement.

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The true fact is women bring nothing to a modern relationship. No reason for men to commit for the amount of loss incurred.

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Can 100% confirm. They can't cook. They can't clean. They have entitiled attitudes. They are in love with their phones.

I love joking with my GF that it's time for ladies to stand outside my window and play 'In Your Eyes' for me.

Remember Gents....you are the PRIZE not her.

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EXACTLY!!!

We’re the bag, NOT her……..EVER!!!!

For anyone reading this I’d highly recommend checking out Kevin Samuels’ YouTube channel.

https://youtu.be/KL9D0N2tyoM

Unfortunately, he unexpectedly passed away in May but his channel lives on in infamy! Kevin is SO well versed on this subject and is flat-out hilarious to boot! I cannot recommend him highly enough!

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Unexpectedly died, you say? Sounds like a p-zombie to me. And we're not considering what the Midwit Remover, sold as protection against the Boomer Remover, is going to do to this dynamic over the next decade. Less likely to kill those with XX karyotypes, it's also clearly causing mass infertility.

Think being an outlier is sold as sexy now? Wait until 10 years of actual fertility backs it up. That stripper stat was an amazing data point for me.

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What point? Woman demand more than they put into relationships. No value. Best way to break up is hold them to their standards.

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Nope. Lmao

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Great article man. Also subscribed off this. Substack can be super dry and colorless. Or too memey and amateur hour. Your writing is a good balance of personal approach with jokes in the right places along with heavier insight utilizing big concepts and shit. It makes for a fun, enjoyable and thoughtful read. I genuinely hope you keep it up dude

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Thank you for the kind words and specificity, I will bear in mind.

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Sep 18, 2022Liked by bright eyes

Truly great and insightful piece. Instant subscribe from me. You were able to conjure into print a hypothesis that has been floating around in my brain for years now. Listening to my wife relay the struggles of one (of many) of her “Katie” coworkers who’s husband no longer apparently strives to advance at his job, or keep the lawn mowed satisfactorily- I often think to myself, “Well of course, why would he?, she’s gotten fat and ungrateful” I hadn’t thought it thru fully in terms of the greater social construct, but you’ve done a beautiful job at it here (even though I don’t know what an egregore is). Keep it up.

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Sep 22, 2022Liked by bright eyes

My wife absolutely insisted that the kids go to daycare in the building where I worked so I'd be tied to daycare hours and not flexible in my work hours. She insisted I watch them all weekend pretty much every weekend when they were little. Now that they're a little older and don't require as much energy she tells me I'm the one that should focus on my career. I'm the one who helps them with their homework and/or checks it to make sure they did it right. She just wants to push all of the heavy lifting onto me. The selfishness is really shocking sometimes.

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If you give her an inch, she'll take an ell. "Selfishness" means nothing to such people

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Thank you for anecdote.

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Hmmm. Aren't you concerned she might rub off on your wife? You know as per "her work environment"

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Interesting article. Nice to see the "unsanitized" politically incorrect observation of men. My main advice to the woman who just wanted to be a supportive wife and stay at home mom is do NOT go to college. That's the mistake I made. Went to college got a degree and a good job thinking this would somehow make me a better future wife. Problem is that when a woman begins to earn more than the cost of daycare then her husband doesn't want her to stay at home. The 50 hours that's spent at her job/commute will take away from husband, sex, kids, cleaning and cooking because a day only has 24 hours. Men if you want your wife to do more for you then support her going part time or staying home.

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Jan 28, 2023·edited Jan 28, 2023

"Went to college got a degree and a good job thinking this would somehow make me a better future wife."

It might not make you a "better" wife, but it will keep you a wife longer than any less educated demographic.

" Problem is that when a woman begins to earn more than the cost of daycare then her husband doesn't want her to stay at home."

That's a risk that comes with being part of the demographic in the USA that has the most chance of a long marriage: a couple where both spouses are university graduated and professionally employed.

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What selection of men is available to women who don't have college degrees?

As a woman, I don't want anything to do with that selection. That may sound harsh, but it's the truth in the 21st C.

As many problems as there are with the modern college experience for young women, getting a good degree (i.e. STEM) will allow a woman to socialize with men that have higher earning potential, higher socio-economic standing, and fewer socio-cultural problems.

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Right. As if a high IQ man from a stable, upper-middle class, cultured and highly educated family is going to marry a woman who graduated high school to work the drive-thru at Taco Bell just because she's cute. The Manosphere is trying to sell women on this idea but you never see examples of it in real life.

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Disagree, look at the Mormons. Almost all of the women go to college now because they recognize that even SAHMs must be sufficiently educated about many aspects of the world to teach their young children and/or homeschool them as they grow older. Education is not a loss when looked at from this perspective.

Going to college and getting a degree in a solid field (something STEM) also means that you will be around smarter, higher quality men who will earn enough to support a SAHM and kids. Assortative mating is a real phenomenon. The higher in status one's social milieu, the better quality of mates you can choose from.

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Bingo Nora! These men that say, "we don't care what education level women have we just want them to be good looking and agreeable" are really displaying what socio-cultural class they come from. Jews, Asians, Indians and people who come from classy, traditional and family oriented cultures absolutely DO care about a wife's educational background. And their parents care very much about a potential daughter-in-law's social and professional status. If their son is a neuro-surgeon they want their daughter-in-law to be a heart surgeon. Highly educated American women would do well to look into the demographic of 2nd generation immigrants for dating and marriage.

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We get it, you're non-white, upset about that, and want to feel better about yourself.

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Wait, what? What about my comment gives you the impression I'm not white?

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You think being a surgeon is high status (middle class striver with chip on shoulder) and look down your nose at "those crude whites." Most likely brown.

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I said, "Jews, Asians, Indians and people who come from classy, traditional and family oriented cultures absolutely DO care about a wife's educational background. "

European Jews are white. And there are also non-Jewish white people who "come from classy, traditional and family oriented cultures."

While I don't "look down my nose" at lower class people (of any ethnicity), in the USA they are the least likely to marry, and the most likely to divorce if they do marry. The demographic with the greatest marriage longevity here are couples where both spouses are university graduated and professionally employed.

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Huh? Surgeon isn't high-status?

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most incredible article i've read in at least a year. i really need to up my IQ on these male-female sexual dynamics in the modern era in order to better understand the Big Picture. tremendous. thank you.

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Sep 15, 2022Liked by bright eyes

very good article

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Sep 19, 2022Liked by bright eyes

When I got married the last time, and I do mean the *last* time, I remember first seeing my personals date and thinking, "she's not as cute in real life as she was in her photos." But her personality hooked me, and her familiarity with outdoor activities like camping clinched the deal. I also figured her less-than-beautiful body might make her more loyal, glad to have secured a financially solid and reliable husband in spite of her shortcomings in the looks department. Boy, was I wrong. Instead it made her pathologically insecure, a classic example of what I call "jealousy disorder" where her auto-generated fantasies of my infidelity, in the absence of any evidence, became so crippling that her escape from the marriage on any pretext was her only path to mental peace. So there must be a happy medium someplace between fat & ugly making a woman hopelessly insecure, or thin & beautiful making a woman permanently in trade-up mode every time they spot a richer man.

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This is something me and the boys occasionally go back and forth about. So you're telling me a less attractive woman can also give this much trouble?? If you don't mind can you be honest did you do anything to raise her suspicions? Let men help men.

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Sep 22, 2022Liked by bright eyes

Absolutely nothing - I'm the hardest-working, most stay-at-home guy any woman could ask for. I didn't have time or energy to fool around. It's amazing that what I call "jealousy disorder" isn't talked about more. It might be the most common phobia out there: a fear of infidelity that generates fantasies, then the fantasies are repeatedly thought about until they become real in the mind of the phobic partner. It's like people can be terrified of crossing a bridge because they think it will collapse while they're on it, even though they've never seen a bridge collapse.

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Magnificent article. Looking forward to more. Thank you!!

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Sep 16, 2022Liked by bright eyes

I work with some Katies. It has opened my eyes to how fortunate I am to not be in their shoes. There's an element of mercilessness amongst them. I'm glad my will is strong enough.

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Sep 17, 2022Liked by bright eyes

Clever. Mechanical. Callow. I finally see that we're all just fuckseeking fleshbots. No mention of children aside from the 3 blonde androids. It takes constant, total love, devotion, intelligence, spirit etc to raise the human child even if his fucksource feels hard-done-by on the road or in the pits. The real test of our civilisation will come when all the fuck-produce, raised in broken homes and low-wage daycare factories becomes the ruling generation. We're getting a good look at many of them now. The Great Reset will be a perfect fit for them. What a lucky coincidence that it's all lined up ready to go.

How old are you by the way? Not old enough yet to realise that there is more to civilised adult life than fucking.

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Somebody got triggered.

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Someone had to do it.

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This is very good comment, I enjoy.

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If you subtract the vitriol and implied self-loathing, the ASs does raise a salient point: virginity is a pearl of great price, but fertility is a prize beyond price. There's no point in the dance between the two halves that make a whole wherein all things stop and stay. Even as we age, we are able to generate beautiful things, things worth fighting for, things worth dying for, even things worth killing for. Children are the gift, the ROI for the hardship and suffering. What use is a man that gains a whole kingdom and has no son to hand it off to? What value has a woman who makes and keeps a wonderful home that echoes the sad silence of sterility?

Your point was well made, and I congratulate you on absolutely nailing it. Nothing I've said here subtracts from that. Offspring are a whole other topic, inextricably intertwined yet undeniably separate. I, for one, would earnestly wish to see what you could produce on the topic of children and wholeness as it applies to the beast with two backs.

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thank you for kind words — i have twitter thred on topic of wholeness (romantic passion in particular, but fertility is piece of this), but maybe I turn it into an essay.

please be more specific, what aspect of children? I have considered writing something, perhaps as complement to this piece, about the need for new fertility rites

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From a working mom point of view, feminism has degraded motherhood without any repercussions. Being a stay at home mom is looked upon with scorn by both women and other men. Heck even the church is now lothe to promote mom's raising their own families as this may decrease their revenue if the parishioners make less. My angst is that these often obese pants-suit wearing women with partially shaved heads and who cant decide which shade of blue to dye their hair have the gall to criticize women for taking the "submissive " role and staying true to their husbands . These same nasty creatures get to pay an equal amount into social security and draw out an equal amount. Yet it is mine and other women's offspring who will be working to subsidize their retirement. Being a working parent is what more difficult just a working adult. For each child claimed on taxes 2% less should be taken out in the social security payroll tax. 4 or more kids and no social security tax paid by either parent so long as they remain wedded. The fluzies who die their hair and scream at injustice will have to pay more monetarily for their lack of contributions to future generations .

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I think you'd be surprised how hungry we'll be to build conditions to do it better than the empty narcissism under which we were raised... but we probably won't go Neopaulite, much as the elite would like that. We like that we're less-likely to force people into repressive situations. I bet you'll see a society that has less spit and polish and hardier bones.

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Cool. And thanks for all the skincare.

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Sep 16, 2022Liked by bright eyes

This is great. It's like something The Last Psychiatrist would have written if he'd had a decent editor.

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If you like TLP, you may like one of the essays I have in store ...

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Whoa, I haven't heard mention of TLP in a long time. Loved him. Unfortunately, I started reading his blog shortly before he discontinued publishing.

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Sep 20, 2022Liked by bright eyes

Spot on, Sir!

For those that might not be familiar, I’d highly recommend checking out Kevin Samuels’ YouTube channel…

https://youtu.be/KL9D0N2tyoM

Sadly, he passed away unexpectedly in May….However, his YouTube channel lives on in infamy…….He’s literally THE Godfather of this SMV/modern woman shitshow subject and will both teach you a ton and have you pissing yourself in laughter! I cannot recommend him highly enough….!

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Sep 18, 2022Liked by bright eyes

This is a reductive, cynical, conceptually sloppy, superficial, and lazy rant, with limited proof. Other than that, it’s pretty good.

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You're right. The cisfeminist movement only opposed all access to substitutes to mid ciswomen: Transition access, sex work, companion bots, and erotica, because of deep moral conviction and not because they're V-PEC at all.

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Whoa, Nellie! That’s some inside sex politics baseball. No comprendo. I had a Honda with a VTEC engine, but I’m guessing that’s wide of the mark. I’m just saying that you can’t make all these apocalyptic projections based on moonbeams and pixie dust.

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Sep 22, 2022Liked by bright eyes

Whoops Or you're just so lazy and scared that you can't confront the truth of the reality men and women are heading to and will lazily partake in the delusions or wishful thinking that we'll somehow be fine.

What say you, WT where do you think we're headed in the west. With the social dynamics off and everything pointing towards not so good results for both men and women where do you see us going?

Genuine question

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Ok, since you asked…

The problems are manifold and impact us in sn accelerating, invasive fashion. In general there is a loss of trust across the entire spectrum of Western society. There is also a strong social trend in America and the West toward not taking responsibility for one’s decisions and actions: blaming other people for one’s problems, selfishness, being an entitled spoiled brat, failing to be an adult. There is a deliberate breakdown in traditional stabilizing social institutions driven by long term activities on the Left. There is the sense by at least 1/2 of the American population that there is coordinated, malevolent top down effort to create chaos and harm the citizenry in a variety of ways: economically, medically, and from a security standpoint. The other half are asleep, retarded, or Commies. All this stuff makes it hard to form relationships, which is a primary objective of the forces driving these changes.

As regards relationships between the sexes, men have been displaced from traditional roles and so have women, under the fake guise of “liberation”. I’m not talking about reasonable ideas like equal work for equal pay, encouraging women to aspire to be whatever they want, or prohibiting sexual harassment. I’m talking about the devaluation of men by our intelligentsia and media, the absurd negation of biological physical realities, and the simultaneous lies that women have been told in order to dismantle the nuclear family. Women are encouraged to act like men. Why? Aren’t women fine as women? Aren’t men supposed to be men? Are women happier in an atomized society without stable relationships? Is anybody? The fact that we even gave to have this conversation is ridiculous on its face. Who wants to fuck, or even dare I say fall in love, when there is no spontaneity because of woke invented behavioral rules, everybody has their nose in their iPhone 24/7 and oh by the way there’s a new fabricated crisis every twenty minutes? “Try not to die today from some new civilization ending scourge.” isn’t exactly exciting foreplay. So no I don’t think we are fine. We have to get back to basics and common sense. We all want love and attention and respect. We get there by treating one another well, in person. Real contact.We get there by recognizing that social institutions predicated on hundreds of thousands of years of evolution are tried and tested and deserve careful preservation. Western civilization didn’t happen by some accident. Allowing unhappy and manipulative elements to tear it down for some pseudo intellectual trendy shit that will be gone in a few years( because it doesn’t work for anybody really except sociopaths) is dangerous and infantile. So no, I don’t think it’s all fine. And it’s going to get worse before it gets better. But it will get better, because reality always wins in the end. The decadent stupidity we are experiencing now is not a survivable long term strategy. Eventually men and women will return to a stable paradigm. It will be different than today and different than the past superficially. But at the end of the day, most people are going to be people, not fanatics who deny their humanity. Political systems, belief systems, and sexual relationship dynamics in contravention of human nature are eventually doomed to failure. And so is fanatical hatred and systems that leverage hostility as a motivator. Hatred burns out.

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I especially disagree with "lazy" here.

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Ok.

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